“Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget
also thine own people, and thy father’s house; So shall the king greatly desire
thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou him.”
(Ps 45:10-11 AV)
Over
the years, I have had the privilege of helping young people unite in marriage. Part of that process is counseling. A practice, I am sad to say, is woefully neglected
in today’s churches. Part of the
sessions is helping this young couple to understand they must distance
themselves from their extended families, at least emotionally, for the sake of one
another. The ‘leave and cleave’ verses
are often used. However, inadvertently,
the bride may make the comment that the husband is the one who is to leave and cleave. The bride has no instruction. In those verses, she is absolutely
right. Nowhere does it tell a daughter
to leave and cleave. Does than then mean
she can balance her relationships of family and husband as though they are equal? Not according to the above verse. If she wants her husband to desire her
greatly, she must forget her extended family.
Or, to put it in our language, the more she values her husband above her
extended family, the more he will desire her beauty.
Applying
this to the saint, we see how important our relationship is to the LORD Jesus
Christ. He doesn’t want to be one love
among many. He desires to be our
greatest love. He doesn’t want to have
to share equal time with our human relationships as though He is of less
value. A husband doesn’t feel all that
special of his wife honors her father more than him. She becomes more of a sister then she does
the love of his life. So, too does it affect
our relationship with Christ. By
treating Him with less than He deserves, it does affect how He feels about
us. Yes, He loves us unconditionally. But we are not talking about love. We are talking about desire. We are not talking about sacrificial acts of
benevolence. We are talking about the
desire of whatever beauty He has bestowed upon us.
Christ
said that whosoever loved father or mother more than Him was not worthy of Him. I wonder if He didn’t have this principle in
mind. I wonder if He was not trying to
tell His bride that He should be number one.
I wonder if He was not trying to tell us that if we love our human
relationships more than we love Him, it is a bitter insult to what He has done
for us. All that sacrifice and love; the
provision and protection; the encouragement and correction; is presumptuously
consumed that we might value our parents, spouse, children, grandchildren, and
friends more that the Groomsman who bestowed those relationships to begin with. If we want the LORD to desire us with all our
hearts, then we must put Him first.
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