“[As] the fining pot for silver, and the furnace for gold; so [is] a man to his praise.” (Pr 27:21 AV)
This is an interesting proverb. There are two consistent opinions here. The first is that the praise offered is not by the man. He is not praising himself. The second is the purpose of the refining furnace. The refining furnace separates the precious metals from the dross. The refining furnace is purification. One understanding is that a man is known by the praise of others. Those who listen to the praise of others are able to refine out the true praise as opposed to false accolades. The other understanding is that the man who is praised refines the words of praise through the fiery trials of a discerning ear. He recognizes only that praise which is true praise. The difference between the two understandings is the owner of the discerning ear. Regardless, the truth is still the same. Praise is nice. Praise is affirming and needed. But praise should always be heard or accepted with a discerning ear.
The Bible warns us about flattery. Flattery is praise with an agenda. A tale is told of an ancient Greek Olympian who was the champion in many events. He outran all other competitors. He drove a chariot with mastery. He could hurl a disk further than anyone. This Olympian was the celebrity of the nation of Greece. Everywhere he went he was welcomed as the greatest Grecian alive. Favors were poured upon him. He never lacked for a banquet or a mansion in which to stay. The populace fell over themselves to treat him like a god. Person after person heaped praise on him as one who could never be bested. Every four years, he would go to the games and compete. He won everything he entered. One year, he decided to try his hand at archery. Shooting an arrow at a great distance, he would miss horribly. Yet no one had the heart to tell him how much he had failed. Our champion was nearsighted. He could not see clearly beyond fifty yards or so. What he didn’t know was that his situation was unique. He figured he saw what others saw. Time and again, the judges would tell him he hit the bullseye. In reality, he was many yards short. Being emboldened by the praise of others and thinking he could hit a moving target at one hundred yards, he entered the armed forces for the glory of his emperor. No one had the heart to tell him that he couldn’t hit the broad side of the barn. Off he went. He kept a distance away, and launched arrow after arrow not hitting a single target. His armorbearer told him different. Finally, an arrow came from the opposite direction and struck him in the heart. Our hero died a fool’s death because he believed the unproven words of praise from others.
Solomon knows of what he speaks. As the greatest and wisest of all kings at the time, no doubt he heart much praise. Praise may have been genuine. Or praise may have had an agenda. The wise king knew that wisdom listens to praise with a discerning ear. This requires humility and honesty. It requires knowing ourselves better than others know us. Most of all, it requires knowing Self in light of the revelation of the word of God. Knowing our own Selves and knowing what part the Holy Spirit has in making us who we are goes a long way in staving off pride. The Greek champion believed what he wanted to believe. When others heap praise upon us, we can graciously accept it. However, the wise and humble saint will look at that praise as belonging to the One who made us able for that praise. And the wise saint will run that praise through the refining furnace of truth. He or she will be gracious and grateful. But he or she will also be humbly honest.