“Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.” (Pr 9:8 AV)
What
is really interesting here is that reproving a scorner ends in that scorner
hating the reprover. But isn’t scorning
essentially hate speech? Why would reproving
a scorner cause him to hate you? Does he
not already hate that which he is scorning?
The word for scorning here means, “to boast; to scorn; to mock, deride;
to be inflated, show oneself a mocker”.
It would seem someone like that would not care that much for what he is
mocking and hates what he does not respect.
The proverb also implies the purpose of interaction here is to
establish, maintain, or grow an existing relationship. I think, one of the truths we can take away
from this proverb is just because someone is a scorner does not mean it is
personal. It may not mean he hates you
personally. Disrespect and hatred are
two different things. A scorner may mock
and belittle, but that doesn’t mean he hates.
However, if we get our gander up and reprove him, scorning will turn to
hatred.
I
go door-to-door soul-winning almost every week.
I have done soul-winning in many different communities and several
states. Depending on the state, the reaction
can be pretty predictable. In the
northeast, hostility is not unusual. In
the south, more times than not, you are welcomed. In the Midwest, it is a mixed bag. For the most part, people are cordial. But every once in a while, you get a scorner. It doesn’t happen very often, but it does
happen. I have been out with many different
partners. Almost all have been appropriate
and respectful. However, every once in a
while, I will make calls with someone who is a bit more aggressive than need be. Many years ago, on one particular outing, it started
out ok but turned into a disaster. The
partner I went with was inexperienced and super aggressive. We had gone to a certain house and the
conversation started out amiable.
However, the more my partner pressed, the worse the conversation
became. He ended up offending this
person. It turned out it was a close
relative of our pastor who the pastor was working on and because of our visit,
would never darken the doors of our church.
It
is unfortunate, but in order to establish a relationship with someone who is a
scorner, it may be best to let it slide right off your back. Scorning is nothing more than emotional ranting. Seldom is it based solely on reason. If we reprove a scorner, all we are doing is responding
in kind. It is hard to let things roll
off one’s back. Especially if we are
being attacked. The directness of the
attack makes us want to lash out with equal force. Even if the scorning has no basis in reality,
we still have to fight the temptation to say something in return. Solomon, in his wisdom, is telling his
children refraining from responding to a scorner is the better part of valor. Perhaps he was remembering how David dealt
with Shimei. He was the one who cast
stones and scorned David as David fled from Absalom. He left Shimei alone and allowed Solomon to
deal with him. David showed the wisdom
which Solomon later acted upon and which Solomon is not advising his children who
will follow him in government. Just
allow the scorners to scorn. Responding
in kind will only cause them to turn their scorn into hate.
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