“But if any have caused grief, he hath not grieved me, but in part: that I may not overcharge you all. Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many. So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm your love toward him. For to this end also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things. To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” (2Co 2:5-11 AV)
The person to whom Paul is referring
is the incestuous man disciplined from church membership in his previous
letter. This young man was living in
fornication with his stepmother. The
church, rather than dealing with it, actually boasted about it. When Paul addressed the utter wickedness of
this relationship, the church disciplined this young man and removed him from
membership. Now, Paul addresses the
process of reconciliation. Church
discipline is not intended to completely and forever remove a member. It is for the purpose of correction and reconciliation. They are told to forgive him and comfort
him. If they do not, the estrangement
may swallow him up into spiritual defeat.
They are told to confirm their love for him. The most pertinent of points here is the lack
of reconciliation is referred to as a device of the devil. This will be a tough one this morning. Reconciliation is the spirit of the ministry
of Christ. Jesus came to reconcile the sinner
to God. If we refuse to reconcile with
those who we have parted, then we are accomplishing just the opposite.
Estrangement happens quite frequently
in a house full of children. Siblings can
be rather cruel sometimes. The times we
ignored a sibling are far too numerous to remember a single event. This happens in school classes all the time
as well. Someone is guilty of a minor infraction
and the whole class is set against him or her.
If this becomes a pattern, then this classmate is a loner for his entire
scholastic career. With my siblings, spite
was the most frequent motivator. Perhaps
we were playing and one of us didn’t play well with another. The group would shun him or her. It had to happen. It is a proper and right response to bad
behavior. This shunning is meant to
correct misdeeds and force the offender to comply. As children, we take it one step further. The punishment is often more severe than the
crime. We don’t talk to him or her. We organize a new activity or game and do not
include him or her. Even after they
apologize, our sibling is out of the circle of friendship. If Mom got wind of it, she put a prompt stop
to it. No excuses. It didn’t matter what our sibling did, enough
was enough. Our erring sibling had to be
included in whatever we were doing or were going to do. And, it had to be unconditional. Punishing a sibling greater than the crime
was cruel and tantamount to emotional torture.
No doubt this young man’s sin was
serious. To live together out of wedlock
is bad enough. But to do so with your
father’s wife is immensely worse. No
matter the sin, however, the church is commanded to reconcile. This does not mean the church is to look the
other way. They are to call out those in
serious sin and seek confession before all.
If that occurs, then there must be reconciliation. At the risk of offending, I will say this
command to reconcile is not limited to church discipline issues. We are commanded to forgive and reconcile and
a pattern of Christian living. We are
told to seek unity and mutual care one for another. No one can undo the offense that occurred. No doubt, it stung. But that does not give us the right to remain
estranged from those who have offended.
We are commanded to forgive as Christ has forgiven us. Paul takes it a step further here. We are to affirm our love to the one who has
offended us. It is not enough to let
sleeping dogs lie and avoid those who have offended. We are to take the initiative and express our
love to the one who has done the wrong.
This is exactly what Jesus means when He tells us to turn the other
cheek. We offer ourselves in such a way
that more injury just might be possible.
Now, here is the really difficult part.
To refuse to do so is a device of the devil. To refuse to reconcile is akin to what the
devil might do. Churches often fall to
great conditions of disrepair because grudges persist. Families fall apart because spouses refuse to
reconcile. Siblings become estranged
because they refuse to talk to one another.
Irreconcilable differences are a device of the devil and we need to
forsake it lest what we have is lost.
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