“And Jonathan caused David to swear again, because he loved him: for he loved him as he loved his own soul.” (1Sa 20:17 AV)
Does
anyone else find this odd? One would
think that if two people really loved one another, then reaffirming an oath
would not be necessary. Or even more strange
is how forcing someone you love to reaffirm an oath is considered an act of
love. The covenant between the two was a
promise on Jonathan’s part that he would let no harm come to David and he would
do everything in his power to see David ascend to the throne. In return, David promised to protect the
house of Jonathan. Even to his offspring
in a perpetual promise. This love they
shared was meant to protect one another against potential threats. Again, one may find this odd that two men who
cared as deeply as they did for one another would be motivated by love and ask
the other to reaffirm this oath. In
fact, one would think as deep as their love was, there wouldn’t be a need for
an oath at all. Right? If I deeply love someone, I would seek their
protection. I would try to do all I
could do to help him and keep him out of harm’s way. And I wouldn’t have to make a promise. It would be automatic. However, relationships don’t work that way.
When
I made my wedding vows to the most wonderful woman on the planet, I promised to
do some things. I promised to love,
honor, and cherish her. I promised to
remain faithful. I promised all my worldly
goods to her and I promised all that I am or ever will be. These promises were based on several
factors. My love for her was only one of
those factors. When I married my best friend,
I did so because God told me to. I knew
she was God’s will for me and regardless of how I may feel at any moment, I
would be in disobedience if I didn’t marry her and honor those vows. I also made those vows because I knew
emotions can fluctuate. In the weakness
of my own flesh, I may not feel like honoring them. My flesh or temperament may get in the way
and challenge those vows. But I made a
promise. Although my lovely bride and I
have never, nor will ever, renew our vows, that doesn’t mean we never do. We may never have a ceremony. Nor do we need one. We affirm these vows every day. Why?
Because we love one another. It
is not because we mistrust one another.
Rather, reaffirming a promise is an act of love. This is what Jonathan required of David and himself. A reaffirmation of a covenant as an expression
of love.
We
make many agreements with the people closest to us. As a pastor, I promised to pastor the sheep
God gave me. I didn’t get to pick my
sheep. And I am glad I didn’t. Pastoring is not for the faint of heart. There are times when caring for the sheep strains
those promises. However, love means
there is a reaffirmation of the vows I took almost forty years ago. Being a husband and a father is not
easy. There are times when the promises
we made become a challenge. Yet, it is in
the midst of these challenging times God requires of us to express our love by
reaffirming our commitment we made decades ago.
Building relationships means we make promises and we keep those promises
as an expression of our love. Emotion is
fickle. True love is not mere
emotion. True love is sacrifice and
commitment. This is what Jonathan is
driving at. Mistrust of David was the
furthest thing on his mind. Jonathan was
putting his own life at risk for the sake of God’s anointed. He would eventually fall by the sword to
protect his best friend. Sacrifice and
commitment are the bedrock of a relationship and not emotion. Therefore, for the sake of love, make a
promise and keep to it.
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