“Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.” (1Co 11:11 AV)
I think Albert Barnes explains this verse perfectly. “Lest the man should assume to himself too
much superiority, and lest he should regard the woman as made solely for his
pleasure, and should treat her as in all respects inferior, and withhold the
respect that is due to her. The design of this verse and the following is to
show, that the man and woman are united in the most tender interests; that the
one cannot live comfortably without the other; that one is necessary to the
happiness of the other; and that though the woman was formed from the man, yet
it is also to be remembered that the man is descended from the woman. She
should therefore be treated with proper respect, tenderness, and regard.” Chapter eleven deals with hair length as a
symbol of societal status. It was not
uncommon for women to disguise themselves as men that they might gain access to
political halls and participate in debate.
This even began to infiltrate the church. The other side of the coin, so to speak,
would be for men to think themselves superior.
Hence the verse above. Each is
mutually dependent on and beneficial to, the other. Responsibility does not suggest superiority.
Many principles and objects of life are designed on the balance counter
balance theorem. Take a forklift, for example. While under load, there are forces contrary
to one another that allows the lift to remain stationary. The weight of the load is contrary to the
counterbalance weights in the chassis. Or, think of beats in a music score. There are vacant parts in-between beats. Some call those spaces, off-beats. If there were no off-beats, then there would
be only one beat. It is impossible to have
more than one beat without an off-beat. A
seesaw would not work unless two weights complimented one another. Food is often seasoned with two basic seasonings. It often puzzles me that food needs salt and
pepper as basic seasonings. The point
is, God designed life with complementary forces or characteristics that enable
life to function and be blessed. When it comes to marriage, it is the ultimate
symphony of balance.
In my premarital counseling sessions, I ask the prospective couple to
do some homework. One of the tasks is to
list one’s strengths and weaknesses and then apply them to the strengths and
weaknesses of their fiancé. I do this
that so when emotions may wane or commitment is challenged, this couple can see
why the LORD put them together. They can
go back to the foundation of marriage found in Genesis chapter two. God made Adam a mate who would be a help to
him. A wife who would compliment
him. Understanding one’s self is the
first key to discerning one’s needs for a specific mate. To that end, I have a confession to
make. As of late, the Holy Spirit has
helped me to see, more and more, just how perfect my dear Lisa is for me. I always knew she was. She has abilities and personality traits I
don’t have and this helps me to do what God has called me to do. Last night, I was awakened by that irritating
need all we of a certain age are inflicted with and lay awake afterward for a
few minutes. In that time, I have the habit of reaching over to my wife and
holding her hand as I fall back asleep.
In that time, I meditate on just how perfect of a wife my Lisa is to
me. God knew exactly what He was doing
when He made her for me. There isn’t any
other soul on the entire planet that could be as perfect as she is for me. I felt truly blessed. Yes, I may be the leader in this
relationship. But I need her just as
much as she needs me. Probably even more. I completely understand the meaning of the
verse above. She may be of me. But I am just as much of her. How blessed a man I am!
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