“The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son maketh a glad
father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.” (Pr 10:1
AV)
Mothers and fathers respond differently to
the behavior of their children. It is
not that one care more than the other.
We are simply built differently.
The overwhelming meaning of ‘…heaviness…’ here means to grieve. Scofield has an interesting take on this
verse. He proposes the difference
between a wise and foolish son is not necessarily the choices which he makes,
but rather, the motive for and nature of those choices. He references the rich man of Luke 12:16-20
to make his point. He proposes the difference
is their belief in God rather than the nature of the choices he makes apart from
faith in God. In other words, Scofield
suggests the foolish are not necessarily mentally deficient or absent of all
character or discipline. Rather, they are
arrogant and self-sufficient. Be that as
it may, his insights do shed light on the difference of reaction between a
father and mother. Now, make no mistake,
a wise son would make a glad father or mother.
A foolish son would make any parent grieve; mother or father. But when it comes to the failure of a child
to walk with God, mothers tend to take it harder. At least that has been my observation.
Over the years, I have been asked to help
parents with erring children. These
cases are never easy. As the child approaches
adulthood, they spread their wings and test everything they have been taught. Some are merely trying to find
themselves. They want to embrace their
own set of convictions and they see agreeing with those who trained him or her
as an absence of individuality. They want
to come up with their own ‘truth’ as though it is theirs to own. So, they begin the process by rejecting what
they have been taught, testing everything under the microscope of
experience. Once they realize a good
portion of what they have been taught was true, they systematically embrace the
rest. However, some rebel. They have found these truths to be
self-evident yet believe if they reject them, then they have the mandate to be
who they want to be or do what they want to do.
It breaks the heart of his or her parents to see them reject the LORD
for mere self-pleasure or self-determination.
What bothers the parent the most is the blessing he or she has enjoyed
by walking with God is rejected by the one whom they love the most. For Mom, it is not necessarily a rejection of
truths as it is the rejection of a relationship. One she has come to treasure herself.
Time and again, I see mother, weeping in the
corner over her child. This child spent
countless times praying with his or her mother.
This little man or woman witnessed mother as she spent time in her
Bible, heard her pray for her husband and children, and labored tirelessly to
prepare her children to walk with God.
She spent hours bathing and dressing her children, preparing them to
attend Sunday School and church. She
loaded them in the car as they went off to Vacation Bible School. She spent all the time necessary to help them
memorize their scripture assignments.
She taught them to sing about Jesus.
She sat proudly as her child’s class sang a special in the church;
rehearsed memory verses in front of the congregation; or passed out tracts at
an event. She was so proud when they went
off on that missions trip. She spent
hours in prayer as they went to Bible camp, praying the LORD would get a hold
or their tender heart before the world had a crack at them. She sat with the widest smile ever as she listened
to her child’s testimony as to how the Spirit had done a miracle in their
heart. And, she beamed when it was announced
her little one accepted Christ. Tears of
joy trickled down her face as she watches the preacher baptize her child into
the fellowship of the saints. All these
things come crashing down when her little one, now all grown up, rejects it
all. She grieves because the child she raised
to love the most important One to her is soundly rejected by someone who wants
to find themselves apart from the One who created them. This is the heaviness she bears. Tears of joy have turned to tears of grief. To reject the One she loves most hurts more
than rejecting her. So, young lady. So, young man. Are you willing to break your mother’s heart for
the simple reason of being your own person?
Why not accept Christ or return to Him.
Both He and your mother couldn’t be more pleased.
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