“Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.” (Pr 31:3 AV)
Written from a
mom to a son who is king. Some suggest
these words are Bathsheba’s words to Solomon.
They suggest the name Lemuel is simply another name by which Solomon
went. Others suggest this is a king and
mom known to Solomon, who gave advice when looking upon the errors of
Solomon. It matters not who the author
is nor who the king might be as it pertains to practical application to the
reader. Note the plural. Mom does not tell her son to not give
strength to a woman. The plural ‘women’
is used. The world ‘ways’ is used
instead of way. Mom is, in short,
warning his son that, as king, he cannot give in to his passions. Mom is warning her son that the heart and the
flesh can be easily enticed and that he would be wise to control those impulses
if he is to serve his God and his nation well.
Have you ever
gone to an amusement park for relaxation and found that by the end of the day,
just the opposite occurred? The day
starts out with excitement. After you
pay a fortune to get in, you are looking forward to a day of activity that
recharges your batteries. You have
worked hard all year. You and your
family are there for a time of memories and fun. It starts out ok. But then the long lines, fast food, and the
sun all take their tolls. And that
doesn’t even count the rides along the way.
They are designed to take you from one extreme emotion to the next. They are designed to change excitement into
fear. From fear back into excitement. Then comes fear again. Finally, relief is the feeling that washes
over you. You are so relieved you can
plant your feet on solid ground. You got
through all that only to stand in line and do it all again. By the time you get home, you are sunburn,
nauseous, and suffer more pulled muscles than a bodybuilder. The next morning, the alarm goes off. It is work or church. One or the other. Your friends or colleagues ask you how the
day went and you respond with a thumbs up.
Unfortunately, not a lot is accomplished the next day. Worn out from all the pleasures of the
previous twenty-four hours, it will be a very slow work or worship day.
This is of
what Mom is warning her son. It is
proper and right to be married to one woman.
It is ok to enjoy the pleasures of life.
But not to the extreme, where losing strength to serve is lost. This is why Mom uses the plural. One wife would be enough. More than one only steals strength rightly
belonging to his God and country. A
simple day of leisure is ok. But make a
habit of it and industry is lost. Give
into the flesh and heart too much, and discipline ceases to exist. I am also concerned with the little word
‘give’ rather than loose. This suggests
a deliberate choice as opposed to a passing temptation. The king chooses to give his strength away. He is not enticed. He chooses to fall to pleasures rather than
exercise discipline. The warning is a
good one. One that many men fail to
heed. May we listen to the words of Mom
and guard our hearts and flesh from temporary pleasures so that we might give
our strength to eternal things of value.