“He that passeth by, [and] meddleth with strife [belonging] not to him, [is like] one that taketh a dog by the ears.” (Pr 26:17 AV)
There is wisdom in staying out of things. There is also a balance between being a peacemaker and a meddler. Perhaps Solomon is referring to a battle in which the peacemaker has no standing, credibility, ability, or is simply not welcomed. Two sides at odds must come to a place where a peacemaker is welcomed before a peacemaker can become involved. The picture above is a good one. If you have ever witnessed two dogs that in the throes of a fight, breaking it up often results in a bite or two. Passing by here is the key to understanding the situation. The strife existed prior to the meddler’s observation. It was ongoing. It was fierce. It was escalated. The meddler was not planning on a fight. He doesn’t look for one to settle. He simply passes by and notices two who are at great odds. His pride causes him to think that he can be the bigger person in the room and invites himself into something that is none of his business. He thinks he alone has the solution to the problem. He believes that if the two would simply pause and listen to his wonderful wisdom, it can all be worked out. The reaction is like a dog who has his ears pinched. He we turn on the pincher and forget the fight he was just in. The better part of wisdom says that if we are not invited into a problem, maybe it is best to pass on by.
I am a hockey fan. I love watching a sport where the final score is not the motivation for watching. Hockey can be a violent sport. The hits and checks are rather robust. An open ice check is one of the greatest sports events of all time. When one player sends another flying through the air because the second was not paying attention is wonderful. Then there is the on-ice justice. The game moves so fast that the officials cannot see all that goes on. There are cheap shots that need a response. Perhaps someone was boarded after a play was over. Or perhaps a player was pushed headfirst into the boards. Maybe the goalie was slashed, or a player was sandwiched. These plays cannot go unanswered. If they do, the offending team believes they can intimidate their opponent into a loss. So, from time to time, a fight breaks out. Usually, two face off and no one else gets involved. But if a third person does get involved, he usually does so at the earliest onset of the altercation. Being the third person in, he draws a lot of attention. Often, he gets the bigger penalty or even worse, hurt by the response of the other team that intervention, although noble, was not the wisest move.
Knowing when and how to get involved is the point here. If passing by one notices strife between two, it is probably wise not to insert oneself unless asked to. This doesn’t mean the authorities should be ignored. By all means, call or notify an agent of authority who can step in and stop the strife. But if we have no standing and are not asked to resolve a problem, it is not our to solve. Trying to do so will cause more harm to us than it may cause the two combatants. Being a peacemaker does not mean we have to be pro-active. Meddling will get us bit. Letting those who have authority and standing resolve the conflict is the wisest of choices.